Being supportive means helping each other

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Today, I have a much more benevolent approach, that is to say that I will always avoid or seek to avoid direct confrontation with others. I refuse conflicts because I know that conflicts do not lead to anything constructive. It is never a win-win situation in a conflict, and no one wins, because even the one who thinks he has won, has also won an enemy, and in the long term, if we take a step back, conflicts do not benefit anyone.

So, I keep this teaching of not letting myself be pushed around. I try to protect myself, to put up barriers so that others do not abuse or those who try to abuse cannot do so, but I added a little kindness by trying to avoid as much as possible conflicts that serve no purpose.

Fourth lesson: be united.

it means trying to help someone who needs it. It also means sharing difficulties as well as successes. And this very important teaching helped me to work well in a team. My father always told me: "Never leave a friend who has a problem alone, go help him. Whatever the consequences, even if these consequences are very negative for you, you never leave a friend alone with a problem."

When I was playing football and he came to see me, every time, he would encourage me to always do more for the good of the team, out of solidarity, to help others. When my brother iran whatsapp number data started secondary school and I was a little older and already there, he would ask me to watch, to look, to be supportive if he ever had the slightest problem, etc. There are many other examples of this type.

And I have kept this benevolent reflex in my personal life as well as my professional life, with the members of my team, etc. I try to be as present, as understanding as possible when there are problems. And when everything is going well, when for example people in the Authentic French Academy congratulate me for our work, for the platform, I never fail to mention the members of my team who work with me. Because that's what being united is, it's being there when things are not going well, but also putting others forward, if they deserve it, when things are going well. So, this solidarity remains something super important to me.

Of course, I don't do it out of calculation or false modesty, it's really something automatic and natural. And I clearly owe that to my father.

Lesson five: remember that when it's done, it's done.

As I said before, my father encouraged me to work hard, very hard. He would always ask me: "Have you learned your lesson? Are you ready for your math test? Have you done your soccer exercises, etc." So, he always wanted me to be ready and work hard. However, once the math test was over or the soccer games were over, no matter how well I did, he would always tell me: "There's no going back. When it's done, it's done."

Of course, he would point out the mistakes I might have made in a constructive way so that I could improve, but he never criticized. As long as I had worked hard enough and done my best, well that was enough for him.

And I think I've kept that mindset with my family, with my kids, but also with the people that I work with. And I try to say to myself, "Well, did we do everything? Did we do our best? Did we prepare well? Did we do everything we needed to do to be ready and do the right thing?" If the answer is yes, no matter what the consequences are, no matter what happens next, I say to myself, "Well, it's done, it's done. There's no going back." So let's focus first and foremost on the things that we can change, that we can influence, which is our focus, our effort, etc. and then when it's done, it's done. We learn from our mistakes and we forget.

Sixth lesson: all excess is bad.

When I became independent and my father saw that I was working very, very hard, both as an employee and when I started creating Français Authentique, he told me to slow down. And it may seem paradoxical, because I told you that one of the first lessons he taught me was to work hard. But in fact, one does not go without the other. He encouraged me to work hard, but he also taught me that any excess, even an excess of work, is bad.

And he was absolutely right. What's the point of succeeding in your job, in your studies, in creating your business, etc., if, in return, you destroy your health or don't take care of your family? It's useless, in fact. It's partly thanks to my father that I found a good balance between my professional projects, my personal development and, of course, the time spent with my family. For all that, I want to say "thank you, Dad".

So, there you have it, I hope that these six tips, these six life lessons will help you as much as they helped me. Of course, it's not exhaustive. There are plenty of other things that I could have mentioned, plenty of other teachings that my father gave me, that I could have mentioned, but these are really the six major things that I have retained and that I wanted to share with you today.

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