Have good feelings about ourselves

[jrineakter]

am not here to paint a bleak picture, but I am here to say: Be careful. An excess of personal development, the word "personal" is important here, can ultimately lead to an excess of individualism or a risk of individualism and part of my personal development efforts must necessarily go in this direction.

I read something that impacted me, it was in the book Psycho-cybernetics by I think, it's Mr. Maltz, Dr. Maltz. I had read a quote, he said that our feelings about ourselves correspond to our feelings about others and he also said that it works both ways. So, I'm going to tell you both ways, the sentence:

Our feelings about ourselves, so what we think of ourselves, correspond to our feelings about others. So, if we have good feelings about ourselves, if we like ourselves, well we're going to like others, that's what he says. And the opposite is true: If we have good feelings about others, we're going to

So, even if it's not the goal, otherwise we would become individualistic again, but the fact of understanding others better, of understanding their goals, their desires better, of listening to india whatsapp number data them better, of showing a person that they are important, of treating them better, of simply loving them more, all that, it will allow us to love ourselves even more. That's what Maltz says in Psycho-cybernetics, and there is a bit of meaning in it when you think about it.

Again, that shouldn't be the goal. The goal is really... that's a side effect as they say, it's a bonus that appears in addition, the fact of having a better vision of oneself because one has been a better person towards others. But ultimately, it shows that everyone actually wins.

I put it into perspective by saying to myself: "OK. I'm not entirely proud of myself because I think I've developed a lot of abilities and skills in different areas, but in this area, I really think I should do better." So, I'm not very proud of myself on this subject.

I put things into perspective of course because, as I said, I am not at the point of being selfish, but empathy and compassion must be qualities that I put on the agenda of my development, so as I said, try to understand others better by talking to them, to be interested in their objectives and to understand why, to listen better.

It's a skill that I've developed a little in recent years, because a few years ago, I perhaps tended to talk more and try to convince than to listen in the end, but we can always do better, so listening better is a sign of respect, showing a person that they are important because each person is ultimately important, it may be a cliché to say it but each human life is important, and simply treating others better.

So, this is something I wanted to share with you. There is not necessarily any advice to give you since, as you can see, I have a lot of work to do. The only advice I could give you is to finally perhaps think. Have you, like me, neglected this part or not given enough, let's say, importance to this part? Or do you say to yourself: "Oh no. For me, it's perfect. I am a person full of empathy and compassion"?

That's a bit of what I wanted to tell you about this topic. I hope you liked it, that you'll find me next Wednesday for a new episode and then that you'll leave a nice rating, a little 5 stars on the different podcast platforms.